Friday, February 17, 2012

Another 'AHA' moment

Thanks to one of my new friends following this blog and sharing experiences I was able to further analyze myself and come out with some new information.  There have been times when I have shared with my husband that I always enjoy sex once I am into it - the issue was that when I am tired or stressed it is hard to get my mind in the right place.

Now - I am still as tired as I used to be - in fact with all the action I am getting I am getting considerably less sleep and am possibly more tired than I used to be - but I realize now that I no longer have that issue with not being 'into' it.  What has changed.  My mindset has changed.  I don't want to sound like a sex crazed lunatic, but I am now spending my days thinking about the time I get to spend with my husband.  I am so tuned in to him and us that I am always mentally into it and ready. That is HUGE!!! Is this what it is like to be a guy?

I wake up thinking about sex with my husband - I go through my day thinking about sex with my husband.  Right after I have sex with my husband I calculate in my mind when I will get to have sex with my husband again.  It is crazy - and I love it.

Now - I have to tell you that aside from that we took what I see as another huge positive step last night.  All the kids were in bed early - even the older ones were zonked out by 10:00.  We settled in for a nice movie and my husband asked me to get a little closer so he could rub my back a bit.  Now I don't know about the rest of you - but usually this is 2 minutes of rubbing my back and then the he is trying to mount me. Last night however was very different.  He rubbed by back and that led to some very sensual touching for a good 30 minutes while we enjoyed each others touch and the rest of the movie.

When the movie ended - he turned off the television and I got scooted over to get ready, he had been patient and I assumed he was just dying to 'get it in'.  BUT he said - not yet...things stayed very relaxed and we enjoyed the touching for a bit longer.  What a treat, there was real intimacy there.



  1. Mrs Yes...

    Yes that is what it is like to be a guy, at least this one.

    I'm glad it's going so well for you.

  2. Mrs Yes

    Found your blog today and find it interesting. I think I'm going to have to see about convincing my wife to take a look.

    Keep up the good sex. Every mans dream.

  3. I concur with Ponyboy. It's called "The Buzz". It starts when you're about 14, and it doesn't really go away until your body grows cold. At certain stages of your life it can literally overwhelm every other conscious thought and provide you a justification for the stupidest, most dangerous actions in human history. It's a living hell of torment and titillation that every man struggles to think past every moment of his adult life.

    I'm glad its going well for you, too. The intimacy sounds just like what you need. If you would like to help foster more of the same, consider taking some time when you are alone to just list off the reasons you respect him -- not LOVE him, because every woman can figure that out and it's not always flattering -- but why you respect him. Men crave respect the way women crave emotional intimacy, almost as much as sex. (But not quite as much, otherwise I never would have had two of my ex-girlfriends). It would be very positively Alpha for you to tell him, to his face, how you admire his character.

    And it don't cost nothin'. Just sayin'.

  4. Oh, yeah, linked to your blog on my blogroll.

  5. WOW......talking about timing. Check this post out

    Now does that sound familiar or what? It does for me. My wife has told me that exact thing "Don't think about it but like it once we're doing it"

    I put that in my latest blog post.

  6. Yup. This is exactly what it's like to be a man. I cannot tell you the number of females that I make chit chat w/ that are just SO BORING. Why do I talk to them when they are boring? Yes, because they are hot.

    There is a sexual angle to almost everything I do.

  7. That's pretty close what it's like to be a man. You think about sex all the time, the buzz as Ian calls it. Now imagine the world you live in, 75% of the men are as hot or hotter than your husband, and so,when you see them, that buzz zaps you a little bit and you think about sex whether you wanted to or not.

    THAT'S what's being a man is like.